Contract for teens before dating
We’re told that our teens are old enough to begin making their own decisions, that parents who do get involved are old fashioned, intrusive, and “patriarchal.” To us, it seems, very few parents of teens are involved enough in their children’s dating relationships. Perhaps the best way to help corral your ideas on what to do about your child’s interaction with the opposite sex is to write out your family’s dating policy. Will you allow them to date another person exclusively? Too many parents today allow their children to develop exclusive guy-girl relationships at 13 or 14 because that’s what everyone else does. They can’t go out in a car alone.” But the pattern of romance and emotional involvement gets established.That’s why you need to be involved—because others parents aren’t! This will require some extended conversation between Mom and Dad. What about dating—are you going to let your kids date or not? As Ashley and then Benjamin and Samuel began adolescence, we looked more closely at this issue and over the years developed some family guidelines for the following: When a child can date, whom they should date, acceptable kinds of dates, telephone use, Internet communications, and so on. We (especially dads) need to interview our daughters’ dates.Her name was Stacey and she sat next to me in Geometry class.As your teen enters the dating world, it's important to make your expectations clear.Cons: Not all teens mature at the same rate, so even though your teen comes to that age, he or she may still not be able to handle it.The Solution: Try using that age as a "review" age.Since I had never been on a date, I emphatically tried talking him out of the idea.
During any date, I will leave my cell phone on and will answer it immediately if my parents call. And finally, by signing this document I swear that if I ever have any questions about dating, I will discuss those questions with my parents or with another appropriate adult, such as a counselor at school.In forming our own convictions as parents about dating, it’s not good enough for us to just back off a step or two from what the world says is acceptable.